“You cannot turn someone against their country—they have to want to believe whatever propaganda you tell them.” — Yuri Bezemenov, former Soviet KGB agent.
All of you demanding Britney Griner’s release were active in her imprisonment. What’s funny is, and also shows your ignorance of what we’re dealing with, is the idea that she is retrievable. We are funding and supplying Ukraine in their war for survival against Russia—Why would the Russian Communists let her go? I find demands “. . . for her immediate release!” hysterical. What are YOU going to do? Protest? Go on over to Russia and see how THEY treat protesters. Back in the eighties Ronald Reagan told you that the Russians at the center of the Soviet Bloc were an evil empire—did you miss that speech?
For as long as I have been alive, the growth of domestic anti-US sentiment has simmered. While I was being born in 1965, the country was arguing about a war in Vietnam, the civil rights movement was in full swing, women were becoming more politically vocal, and the scourge of hallucinogenic drugs was destroying minds. A beloved president had been assassinated and a man who took slings and arrows for his oppressed people was also assassinated. Then there were a host of other political/economic/cultural items being argued over and considered.
Hating American institutions became en vogue and tearing down norms of culture became a badge of honor. In the ultimate show of displeasure with their nation and using a bargaining tactic of overstating their bargaining position, many Americans began to seek or at least seem to seek alliance with America’s enemies. Usually, it involved sympathy with a communist, socialist, or Marxist nation. Among those were the adversarial Soviet Union and the then nascent China. Sometimes it would be friendly but inconsequential countries such as Denmark or more recently, Venezuela. These ideas were romanticized by those who were (and still are) angry with their home country.
As accusations of the American economy being manipulated for the “rich” went unrefuted, Capitalism and the United States became the scapegoat for people’s struggles. Socially, gains in racial, ethnic, religious, gender or sexual orientation were argued as either too far too fast or not far enough and too slow, and so a seeking out of something out there, somewhere, that may be better than here [America] drove large segments of the American population to look at competitor nations and even adversaries as possibly being the solution.
Especially those of you who look at communism/socialism/marxism fondly.
This trend was reflected in popular music, and in 1981 Prince penned a song on his “Controversy” album titled “Ronnie [Reagan] talk to Russia” (see track 2 left). This song begged that Ronald Reagan talk to and compromise with the Soviet Union. Many left leaning Americans of the day were of the mind that Ronald Reagan, Conservatives, and the so-called ‘military industrial complex’ was the source of nuclear war tensions. Every Republican president since has been painted as an evil warmonger, and whichever nation presented a leader who countered an American president, especially if Republican, had the sometimes-overt admiration of the segment of disgruntled Americans. Remember the invitation of Iran’s Ahmadinejad to speak at Colombia University? The black community harbors a secret love for Cuba and the now deceased Fidel Castro. More recently, the American leftist movement, Citgo, and Joseph P. Kennedy embraced Hugo Chavez. Do you remember the press almost laughing at our own President, George W. Bush, when a Muslim reporter threw a shoe at him?
General George S. Patton warned in 1944 Russia was going to be a problem. Russia and China supported North Korea’s invasion of South Korea, and then North Vietnam’s invasion of South Vietnam. But you hated your own country so much that you rationalized our growing enemy. Remember that bum Jane Fonda?
President Kennedy admitted after his summit with the Russian President that had been outplayed by Premier Nikita Kruschev after extending an olive branch of diplomacy.
“I never met a man like this,” Kennedy remarked to another reporter, Hugh Sidey of Time magazine. “[I] talked about how a nuclear exchange would kill 70 million people in 10 minutes, and he just looked at me as if to say, ‘So what?’”
Not more than six years ago Barack Obama sat with Vladimir Putin and said when he looked him in the eye “I saw a good man”.
Because all of their “America is oppressive” arguments don’t reconcile with the worldwide immigration to the United States they reached even further out to discover someplace better than America, hoping to point to some socialist nation and say, “See! They have it right! They’re just as good . . . America isn’t so great!
So, of course Brittney Griner travelled to communist Russia! You have told everyone you can that the real enemy is America/Republicans/Conservatives/the Police/the Military/Capitalism/The CIA/FBI/Banks/Corporations/Donald Trump! Never mind that the CIA has described the former Russian bear as now descended to a ‘crime-state’ under the leadership of former KGB officer Vladimir Putin.
Ignore everything that General Patton said about Russia, Reagan said about the Soviet Union, it was false, “Britney go on over, the Russians are not the enemy. All the weapons we made and billions we spent during the cold war to counter those Soviet maniacs was our fault, Britney go on over. Ignore the Cuban missile crisis Britney, that was America’s fault”.
“Ignore that two Russian GRU officers travelled to England to poison communist dissident Alexander Litvinenko with radioactive polonium, having no regard for the obvious hazards to British citizens. The CIA, FBI, and our government is worse—so go play Britney! All of the proxy wars the Soviet Union supported against the US were okay and justified—GO ON OVER TO OUR ENEMY BRITNEY AND PLAY BASKETBALL!”
And not only did she go, but she arrogantly flaunted her ‘homosexuality’ in the faces of a nation and men who are clear that they are not tolerant of that lifestyle. The Russians aren’t going to be kind and gentle like the American justice system. Especially if you go there ‘ugly American’ fashion, “I’m a basketball player from America, I do what I want. These people love me, and they pay me”.
She and others of her political stripe arrogantly refused the national anthem of America; but now demand America must come save her…
Like many of you, she was either ignorant that Russia is our enemy, or hopeful she could leverage that against her own country.
RUSSIA IS THE ENEMY! WHAT PART OF THAT ARE YOU PEOPLE NOT GETTING?
You progressives helped put Britney Griner in jail. And now she probably sits in the Lubyanka, the prison where the communists lock up spies and execute enemies of the State. She’s there because of you, and your hidden love for socialism and no-so-hidden hatred for 50% of your country that politically disagrees with you.
© 2022 Queen Publishing
So I’m driving along listening to Sirius radio and my ear is drawn in to a lusty old style blues groove. Despite not being a fan of today’s music and themes, this one grabs me, especially from a production standpoint. This sounds like it should be on my playIist; the chord structure is dramatic, and the bottom sounds like a stand-up bass. The woman’s voice is hungry and breathy as the piece explodes into a powerful refrain incorporating electric keyboards and the synthesized horns as she sings:
I could be a better boyfriend than him
I could do the shit that he never did
Up all night, I won’t quit
Thinking I’m gonna steal you from him
I could be such a gentleman
Plus all my clothes would fit
So, a few years back I USED to have on my playlist a song titled “Girl” by a group called “The Internet”. Another nice groove, a thin female voice telling her female friend . . . then I realized what was being said:
Girl (you’re mine)
If they don’t know your worth
Tell ’em you’re my girl
And anything you want is yours
I must like their grooves because the same group, with female lead singer ‘Syd’ had an uptempo neo-soul groove, “timeless”:
Stay here with me, sleep here in my palace
Wanna be free? Frolic in my fabrics
Wrapped up in sheets (wrapped up in sheets)
Close your eyes, imagine another day
Waking up next to me, baby
Interesting. And this was backed by male musicians. They get credit for the assist.
There’s dozens of these songs out there, the more research I did, the more I was stunned.
I saved this interesting facebook post from someone over at BLM. I found the theme to be…curiosity provoking. It may have been removed, and this screenshot is poor quality, so I’ll retype it:
“Since my post yesterday went left I decided to borrow some words from another BLM organization. Let’s just–say the quiet part out loud. She’s a masculine queer black woman from Houston. She a professional Athlete, a career most men literally dream of. She boasts the height and athletic ability most men–dream of. She can beat most men in a sport that’s male dominated. She has a stunner beautiful wife–which also…Who’s ego is she threatening? Why aren’t we saving her? Bc she doesn’t fit the damsel in distress narrative that strokes our ego?”
I don’t want to go off on tangents here, but WHO is supposed to be saving Brittney Griner from the Russians? American men? Men who the author of that post is implying that Brittany is ‘better’ than? The men who have wives who are NOT stunners? The men who do not have her height or ability? Men who salute the flag she does not respect and sing the national anthem she hates?
Those are their words. Read that post again. She can be a better man than you.
Some of this is men’s fault. We let this cat (no pun) out with our lust for the ultimate male fantasy—the ‘menage-a-trois’. The male desire to have two women in bed at once, a perversion of the French phrase “party of three”. A large number of men (Meyers, 2011) desire this act, to engage sexually with two women at the same time. It is my opinion that this played right into the hands of the male impersonators who seek to replace us. Never considering that “if they enjoy each other sexually that much then maybe they don’t really need you and your icky penis there?”. No thought that at least one of these women really has no need for you but went along for the purpose of tasting the other woman?
I’m not suggesting that lesbianism didn’t originate of its own accord, but I am suggesting that male lust provided a stage for it. The explosion of male centered pornography from seedy theaters almost into the mainstream of culture provided an even more open stage for the normalization of lesbianism. Then the voracious appetite for shock value in today’s entertainment, and we have devolved to dance music celebrating this: “I Kissed a girl, and I liked it”, “Born this way”. These songs, though not the first of their kind, kicked in the door of the heterosexual party, shouting legitimacy.
And they steered around challenging men. And that is the axis of this issue. America, and the world, is becoming more and more accepting of homosexuality, but that was with the unspoken understanding that it would not challenge heterosexuality. But we now have these interesting tweets from the ladies at BLM (Bisexual/Lesbian Manipulators) suggesting that their imprisoned heroine is better than men, and that we are letting her languish because of that. We have ‘Emma’ in an Army recruitment video, who thinks her marches in San Francisco for her two ‘Moms’ shows she’s a fighter and should be a Soldier.
I should be clear, my animus is not at homosexuality per se, but at what I now see is the attempt to usurp male position. Secondarily, a pernicious campaign to pass off this behavior as ‘normal’. I do not suggest that the alternate lifestyle community does not have the right to pursue their happiness; see my essay ‘A National Divorce’. The problem comes when the basic building block of human existence is pushed aside by culture, and then corrupted science, to promote the abnormal.
Yes, abnormal. I respect your right to do it, dependent on you respecting my right to see it as abnormal. And yes, I also accuse some scientists and doctors of being corrupt.
But, let me introduce you to another avenue of approach for this bullshit, laid out by men. I was raised in a time when the opposite gender simultaneously presented itself as sexless and desirous. The overall theme was that women were only interested in sex when it was introduced by men, innocent, and very basic. We were taught by culture that no decent woman was interested in anything but ‘normal’ sexual activity. And ‘normal’ was a very narrow path.
Thus, any female interested in sex was to be looked at askance, ignoring that these desires were hetero driven. Meanwhile the young girls who were described as ‘tomboys’ went unquestioned. In some cases, fathers who were concerned about teenaged pregnancy welcomed gender crossing behaviors and style of dress. “It’ll keep them boys off her” (I know two of these such men TODAY). While male homosexuals were falling on the sword for their cause, lesbians went mostly unfettered. Men didn’t really see them as a threat or challengers, and the aforementioned sexual fantasies of threesomes led to promotion of it.
I overheard a group of teenaged girls talking to another about an older young lady who was attempting to befriend one of them. The teenaged girl was complaining that this ‘hard’ looking woman always approached her at the bus stop, “offering this, offering that”. She was intimidated, was afraid of the woman, and did not know how to turn her away. If this were a man approaching our daughters (or sons) we would beat the pee out of him. Men, we failed to protect straight women from these female wolves.
You’ve been duped, but in some cases, you duped yourself with your lust. But I ain’t been duped. I saw this coming forty-five years ago when I encountered my first ‘dyke’. In a ghetto of hyper-masculinity, she always wanted to challenge me, the little skinny light-skinned black kid who wasn’t as big and menacing as the bigger and darker black boys. Then it was high school, a dyke who found it important to point out she could outplay me in basketball, which wasn’t saying much because I wasn’t a ball player.
This is a new strain of penis envy. There is this growing need by male impersonators to prove they are better than the men she impersonates, and then enter male culture to pluck the benefits of male sacrifice without actually engaging in male sacrifice. They point out male flaws, not for the purposes of construction, but to then highlight HER superiority (while we’re not present to know what she’s up to. Until now). Men are being challenged by Strap-on Sally, and all aspects of culture are helping them, most notably our government and Hollywood. Now that we (men) have built everything, society is on cruise control and we’re no longer necessary.
She can be a better boyfriend than him, She can be a better boyfriend than me, She can be a better boyfriend than you
“You can’t tell me you don’t see it,” Lena insisted. “If men disappear tomorrow, so would war. And rape. And just about every other ill of mankind.” – That line is from “Law & Order: Special Victims Unit” season 24, episode 6, by a female suspect who sponsors bondage parties and is confronted by Detective Benson. If the previous twenty-three seasons didn’t tell you what this show is about, that line should. The whole show is built around the tar and feathering of men.
That wasn’t a bunch of lesbians on those I-beams building New York’s skyscrapers, nor was it lesbians building dams, or mining coal, or on some pitching fishing boat off the coast of Alaska catching fish and crab–it was men. AND ONE SEASON IT WAS ONE WOMAN. Conversely, it’s not men on delivery tables in hospitals giving babies to the world, that’s women. Men have no desire to usurp women’s prestige as the womb of life. Men were, and still are, busy bringing every bit of infrastructure you, and we enjoy today. Women birthed every life you, and we enjoy today. Men are born with not just inherent abilities, but also inherent responsibilities, just as the same must be said of women.
But in her desire to be a ‘boyfriend’ the lesbian demands that we take her false identity as actual, and that her motives are altruistic. And just as the idea of a male impersonating a woman in the powder room is unacceptable, a woman in the men’s locker room is a conflict of interest.
Per the Family Research Institute, apart from Biblical injunctions, homosexuals have been considered non-productive and hence inimical to the well-being and even the survival of the world. In addition, they have been regarded as dangerous, because they preyed on the young and perverted them from normal, healthy, productive lives. In their selfish preoccupation with genital pleasure, they sought to rebel against the natural order of human life itself — the mutual responsibility of one for all that forms the basis of the social contract (FamilyResearchInstitute).
She can be a better boyfriend than him…can she be a better boyfriend than you?
Choe, David (2021) Army leaders praise ‘superstar’ soldier after Sen. Ted Cruz criticizes her recruitment video. Stars and Stripes
Family Research Institute » Blog Archive » The Psychology of Homosexuality.
Meyers, Seth Psy.D. (2011) Men’s Fantasy of a Threesome: Why Men Want a Ménage a Trois. Psychology Today. Retrieived November 25, 2022 from
What is a “National Divorce?” Maybe this is the moment I coin a term.
A National Divorce is an amicable and consensual separation of the nation. Before I write another word, I think we’re better together (see my blog post ‘a case for man and woman’), but we’re on the verge of being history’s most insane domestic violence call. Unless we want this family named America ruined forever, we need to separate mommy and daddy before something really bad happens.
We haven’t forgotten the Civil War; that was horrific and none of the weapons we have now existed then. Imagine repeating that with today’s weapons.
But to explain the concept, I need to go back.
When America was formed, it was a group of loosely tied republics and commonwealths. The original intent was to have these former colonies combining their efforts to stop any foreign invasion (the British), but aside from matters of national defense, each would be free to do its own thing. That freedom and autonomy was sometimes a benefit, such as the formation of local governments and policy specific to the challenges and needs of that state. And it was sometimes a curse, such as slavery. As an ongoing result, there was, and is, a continuing awkward growth stage that is showing signs of pending implosion.
This nation is still a child compared to the other countries of the world. China has existed for thousands of years, the same for the European nations, and some countries existed and dissolved before America came along. But once word of the ‘New World’ spread across Europe, people of every nationality emigrated from their homelands to set foot in North America, and after some skirmishes and two wars, the United States came to be.
The unique feature of America is that anyone can come from anywhere, though it was really Western culture populations (read: white) who made the initial jump. And though there were different nationalities, they were all varying types of Caucasian and European and their cultures were not radically different from one another. Blending would be tricky, but not impossible. That is not to say that the Irish were not frowned upon, and certainly Italians were denigrated, not even being counted as Caucasian until 1934–before that the census counted that group as “latins”. But they were still all from Europe.
But then came other races and radically different cultures–and the growing number of former slaves demanding a seat at the American table they helped build. Add to this the Chinese who were imported to help build railroads. But they were entirely different racially and culturally; and maybe even mentally. Eastern Europeans (i.e. Russia, Poland, Czechslovakia, etc.) began to show up and brought along with them socialist and fascist ideas. And along came a sprinkling of Jews. How was all this going to mix?
Well, though it was not without some ugly turns, the marriage of these peoples happened. This was mostly because there was an initial dominant culture (Western) that the other groups assimilated toward but not necessarily into. This formed a nascent American culture. This society that lived this culture was always dynamic, mostly efficient and extremely effective. It was also often unfair, sometimes downright nasty, and from time to time brutal and terrifying.
But we made it work, though it didn’t always work for everyone; but that is a tangential discussion.
As more and different peoples came to America with cultural and political ideals that were strikingly different if not outright opposite to the developing American culture and politics, the tricky blend has become increasingly complicated, then frustrating, and now either hopeless or maddening. Maddening to the extent that everyday citizens are angry and willing (at least in speech) to harm one another.
With all that said, now we’re ready to discuss a “National Divorce”.
We don’t see eye to eye, and the differences are getting wider and more varied as the spectrum of cultures widens faster than the ability to PROPERLY assimilate them. With no instruction of the American culture in practice, if that even exists anymore, new Americans fall back on what they know; how we did it back home. Or how we should do what this nation or that nation does, despite the river of people leaving those nations to come here. And that is where I observe that we may not be able to come back from the brink. The arguments are now dogmatic, people just want to take the wheel and drive no matter what harm they may do, on top of the harm already done. The marriage of the United States has reached the point of irreconcilable differences, and if we don’t separate the belligerents the house of America will turn into the world’s largest murder-suicide domestic violence call.
But how do we do that?
In a divorce, the marital assets are split; so should go America. My vision of a national divorce is a return to the states being loosely attached republics that stand together for security. Thereby strategically and for security we remain ‘America’, but each state tailored politically to a specific constituency. BY LAW. To avert violent conflict, ALL members of a political, social, or faith based constituency must reside in a defined state of like-minded residents.
Georgia would go to Black people, or African Americans, or people of color, or the African diaspora, or whatever term is being used at that time. Residency would require 51% confirned African DNA and no interracial couples. Gun ownership mandatory–as Stokely Carmicahael the Black Panther said in his speech at Berkeley: “Ya’ll try to play that shit again, this time we playin’ back”. Representatives and Senators of this state must be 70% African American.
There will be a one hundred and fifty thousand dollar (USD), one time reparation payment–to each adult.
That’s it. You can’t get your life right after that–the problem isn’t America. IT’S YOU.
Georgia residents are forbidden to visit the ‘Whites only’ states of Idaho and North Dakota Mississippi, Kansas, and Tennessee.
For my Boricua hermanos y hermanas, let’s stop playing–Puerto Rico needs to be a state. You know how much your tourism economy would explode? If you can demonstrate a solid Republic presence and reliable vote–it would happen within months.
But come on, you can KEEP Spanish at home and for cultural history, but the everyday language will have to be English.
San Francisco could become it’s own state and dedicated to the Alternate lifestyle community. That new state’s residents must be populated by those sympathetic to the alternate lifestyle community, and send ONLY declared and confirmed alternate lifestyle representatives to congress.
Gay marriage would be legal, public and recognized in this state. ONLY THIS STATE.
The rest of California could be a progressive republic (it is almost its own country anyhow, like NY), and that state’s representatives must be registered progressives. Progressives are anti-war, so all military installations would need to be relocated to the new state of San Diego, or to Alaska, giving the US military continued access to the Pacific ocean.
Let Anarchists have Washington State and Oregon; there must be absolutely no organized government or businesses in those states except for what THEY choose to organize, though the whole point of Anarchism is that there is absolutely no organized government or businesses. Or property rights. Be advised: if you are against ALL forms of governance, don’t look for any public assistance or help.
Utah and Nebraska could have a baptized Christian requirement for adults, their requirement for residency. Abortions would be a state crime, unlike the northeast states where abortion would be legal with no restrictions and remain liberal. No liquor, no porn, no nightclubs, restaurants close at 8pm; nothing distracting you from the everlasting Word…and you can have your stained glass windows depict Jesus as ‘white’ with no argument. You are free to marry underage girls and have secret sex cults. You are not allowed to visit the states of San Fransisco and California.
Conservatives would get Oklahoma, Texas, Tennessee and Indiana as full open carry second amendment states. Graduation from high school will require firearms training. BUUUUT, those states would have NO social welfare programs. If you go broke, “pull yourself up by the bootstraps”, like you always tell black people. Public beatings of liberal protestors is legal and preferred.
Idaho and North Dakota will be ‘White’s only’ and also maybe Mississippi, Kansas, and Tennessee.
Residency requirement, 100% Caucasian, Arian, Christian, or whatever you’re calling yourselves…
YES, JUST YOU GUYS!.
See, I didn’t forget you! All the dip and chew and snuff ever made! Confederate flags, swatikas, whatever. Drop the N-bomb, go rootin’ tootin’ shootin’ all you want, do whatever you want, say whatever you want. Residents of these states are not allowed to visit Georgia or the northeast.
Maryland and Virginia would be neutral zones, whose residents must demonstrate measurably that they are moderates (sorry, that is my bias slipping in: “Moderates are people who don’t want to say out loud what they really are”- Rush Limbaugh). NO PARTISAN POLITICAL ACTIVITY OR EXPRESSION ALLOWED IN THOSE TWO STATES!
Florida would be a conservative vacation state with neutral beach zones dedicated to this group or that so Northeast people could go there to vacation without conflict.
Generally, in this plan, every group would get a state where they could do their own thing unfettered.
Fellow Americans, I don’t like the idea of breaking things up, I would rather work it out, but I think many people don’t want to work it out–they want to have the coming fight. For the sake of peace, we must give our neighbors space. Or, we can stop being disingenuous and not violently repulsed by people with different views. We can commit to the concept that there needs to be a compromise to a solid American ideal.
That’s my solution, a national divorce is the best way to avoid us killing each other.
My wife and daughter have been enthralled with the Olympics for the past week and a half, especially the pair’s figure skating. Me, being an analytical sort, I am always looking deeper into people and ideas and interests for motivations. I’m not a fan of the sport, but I do respect the skill and athleticism that is necessary to participate in it, let alone excel. I’m not fond of the male portrayals, but to each his own.
I came to my own revelation of sorts as I got pulled into my wife and daughter’s excitement, watching as the event came down to Russian and Chinese skaters. They gasped as a Russian man held his female partner aloft with one hand as they glided across the Beijing ice. I’ll call them Vladimir and Evgenia. More gasps were emitted as Vladimir released her and recaptured Evgenia at his hip as she gracefully posed in a horizontal position, red lipstick smile prominent against the backdrop of her complexion and the ice.
How long had they practiced that move? It must have been sixteen-hour days in an empty rink for weeks or months. Being we’re discussing Russians; it was probably months. How many times did he drop this poor woman on the ice, to be punished by tyrannical communist coaches? It was amazing, I must admit. Still not my sport, but I will never question the athletic ability of skaters. Especially the men.
And that is where my revelation begins. This required a man and a woman, working together intimately, like we’re supposed to in our lives.
I’m stating the obvious?
This would not work with two women. Nor with two men. Twenty years ago that would not need to be stated; today that’s not entirely obvious. Vladimir was larger than Evgenia, his thighs almost as powerful as Barry Sanders. Evgenia was petite and slim. Each was built for their role, reversal is not possible: Evgenia is not going to hold Vladimir above her head, and he is not going to look good in a skirt and lipstick. I present to you the obvious–A Man, and a Woman.
For my wife & daughter, their excitement was in Vladimir and Evgenia working together, and in the female skater’s beauty, poise, and trust in her partner. An illustration that the woman must trust the man. Even after he may have dropped her in training. I guarantee Evgenia knows how much work is needed to hold her up, and she’s not gibbering about ‘strong women’. And I also guarantee that if Vladimir were gay and you sent a man out there for him to toss in the air, he would say, “No, go get Evgenia.”
I believe that is the disconnect between men and women today. Evgenia had to train, and train hard. Training for her started when she laced up her skates a young girl. But for Vladimir to do his part, his training began LONG before she laced up skates. Even if she was only one hundred pounds, when she jumped, Vladimir had to catch her, continue the momentum upward, and hold her aloft with ONE hand and arm, maintaining his balance gliding across the ice.
Lifting one hundred pounds one handed over your head is a herculean task for a man in a gym on rubber mats in sneakers. This guy did it on skates! The amount of physical conditioning that the male skaters endure must be relentless and brutal. And THEN he has to train to skate just like her.
Not one mention of what an incredible feat it was. I had to point out that he was tossing the equivalent of a giant sack of potatoes in the air, catching it, and running with it over his head. As Vladimir and Evgenia finished and took their bows, he was visibly exhausted. Not one word from wife or daughter of the immense task Vladimir had to perform.
Women see the work men do as a given; we’re supposed to do what we do. It just happens, and they are entitled to it. Women have little appreciation of men and what men do to enable their survival and set the table for their excellence.
And that is a paradox that threatens our future—Men and Women NEED one another. I’ve never met a man who did not value the importance of women. From what I see of late in media and daily interactions, I do not think that view is mutual.
We must protect the relationship of Man and Woman. And in that order. There is a visible campaign by feminists to grab any and all young women and recruit them for the ‘strong woman’ crusade. This is where the ‘wrote our own vows’ movement began.
Hopefully they won’t poison Simone Biles, who accepted a marriage proposal from Jonathan Owens of the NFL’s Houston Texans.
I looked at their photos, and they look happy. I mean really happy. Where do you see that in our times, these times of desperate housewives and athletes with groupies and baby mommas. I do not know the young man’s history so I’m going on a limb in saying he seems like a decent guy. He’s not in the news for trouble or hanging out with rappers. He dated Simone, then put a ring on it. Simone is always smiling, doesn’t pop up in the gossip columns, and looks ecstatic. She appreciates that a man wants to hold her high! They are the embodiment of the themes portrayed by those figure skaters.
I see a Man, and a Woman.
The hood gets to young girls early. The wolves of ghetto life will watch your daughters and bite them early, infecting their unprepared minds. The ravenous thugs that rule the ‘hood’ target young beauties and get to them ahead of more decent young men. By the time proper young men are fully groomed, and seek brides, their peer group of female candidates have already been bitten by the wolf pack. A large number are already single mothers and/or seduced by street culture.
How does this happen? Gang culture and the proliferation of the illegal drug economy (it is no longer just a trade). Large amounts of illegal profit advanced younger males ahead of adult males, so that they hold all the monetary power to control the economic environment. The addition of intimidation by the associated armed gangs confirms to the young girls/ladies that the street thug’s status is solid. THEY control the immediate world about them–not adults.
She seeks male attention and is presented with choice between an awkward honest young man who might have money for a movie, and not very smooth, or a young thug who has been indoctrinated ahead of his time into the local gang structure. He can use a gun to threaten anyone who dares interrupt their fun–even adults. He can splurge his illegally gained money on her to buy foolishness and weed. For a young girl this is tantalizing. Her choice is obvious.
These young men are clearly detrimental to the community, right?
Not for the bitten. Once the hood wolves bite the hind leg of the young girls, they are like victims of a vampire and forever tainted. At an early age, they are seduced by a counterfeit lifestyle, and they continue seek the ease of that irresponsible life as adults. They still crave the wolves who infected them for life. In his world she can be irresponsible—anywhere else she is accountable and behave like a lady. With him she can ‘pop off’ at the mouth and get her maniac street thug on you if you dare say something back.
Expensive cars without the accompanying labor, faddish clothing that would not survive in a normal world, and celebrations every night when responsible people are resting for work the next day. Who would say no to this?
Much like gangsters will brag, she can just point, and her armed and violent male pursuers will, “take care of that problem”. She goes unchallenged. Now you have an explanation for the belligerence so common to ‘hood’ women. The violent streets are her vengeful husband, not any man. And she will entertain ONLY those kinds of men, her identity and power come from that. If she experiments with a ‘working man’ or upwardly mobile man, her disappointment will emerge quickly. His long-term lifestyle is inconsistent with her short-term vision of day-to-day fun and/or survival. Forever tainted, bitten by wolves.
Let these women go. Do not attempt to rescue them or rationalize with them. Later in life, they will complain about the men they chose and will not make the connection to the poison in them from their teenaged interaction with the ‘bad boys’. They were bitten by the vampire and are forever his.
If you name the most prominent and beautiful women in urban culture, none are involved with their proper counterpart. Not one is with a man described as a ‘gentleman’. Beyonce’ is with Jay-Z, admitted street thug and drug dealer— “I did e’ry bit a crime I writ in mine, ran so much coke, I could shit a dime” (from Funkmaster Flex mixtape vol II).
Ciara famously married rapper ‘Future’ and became his THIRD(!) baby momma. Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats (the producer of DMX and Rough Riders). Foxy Brown, Nikki Minaj, Vivica Fox, etc. None of them sought black ‘gentlemen’. They were bitten by the wolves “in them streets”.
This condition holds true ONLY in the Black Community. No other community allows its youth to dictate its direction.
So why aren’t Black women warning their daughters away from the doo-rag/saggy pants/tattoo on neck/street talkin’ thugs?
Have they been bitten by the wolves?
Have you been bitten?
(I want to thank a female co-worker who I consulted for this topic. She confessed that reading this was personal, it was like I followed her in her youth. She is relieved that her own daughter has not been ‘bitten by the wolves’.)
Reviewing the word and concept of intersectionality, it seems well-meaning. ‘We’ perceive that ‘you’ are being oppressed, and that your oppression similarly originates with our oppressors, or affects you a similar way. Because what ‘you’ want may involve some of what ‘I’ want, or that the attainment of our different goals pits us against the same challenge/oppressor, we should then link arms and attack this ‘oppressor’ together. Like many modern inventions of language, it suggests progress toward a goal. The intersection of these efforts focuses on where two groups, or movements, or creeds meet. Theoretically, after attainment of stated goals, each of us goes our separate way happy, or hopefully together forever happy.
Is that so?
When we look at paths that cross at an intersection, the point at which they meet are just that: a point.
The lines will continue along their original paths, to different destinations somewhere infinite.
Having fired a rifle at a target, I and anyone else who uses firearms will tell you that a variance of just one millimeter looking down the sights of your weapon results in missing your target by substantially more the further the round (line) travels. At three hundred meters, you could be as much as one meter off target.
I suggest that this is occurring with the varying social movements.
Among the list of problems facing the Black community, and American life in general, has been the absence of fathers in children’s lives. The current number is seventy percent of black children are born out of wedlock. Almost fifty percent overall. It is now irrefutable, that the single most harmful practice in the Black family, and black community, is the lack of black male leadership in the home and in the community.
But, here comes the intersection. The current wave of the feminist movement means well (?) in their support of Black equity/liberation movements and the like.
To state the feminist agenda simply (the list is LONG), it is the promotion of female autonomy. A key part of this is destruction of gender roles and deemphasis of male leadership.
In contradiction, the black community needs male leadership, and Black families are in disarray because of the loss of gender roles and the observable chaos of African American female autonomy. This is a conflict, the point at which both groups are fighting the same oppression is finite—while the vectors to their respective goals are infinitely divergent.
Black women who have ‘bought in’ to the recreated African community concept desire to have black men assume their place as ‘Kings’, thereby making them ‘Queens’. In contrast, feminists who are supporting black movements would eliminate any semblance of a man as a king. Both seem to be fighting the boogeyman of white supremacy, but for white women it is a fight against white MALE supremacy.
There is also a group of Black female historical revisionists who have introduced the idea that African tribes were matriarchal, and that recapturing their cultural roots includes repurposing men as servant army ants in their female-led ant colonies (ignoring that these female run tribes no longer exist–hmmm).
This is not a healthy alliance. I suggest that black women who seek this link-up of movements fall into varying groups, of which I have identified two, neither of which may be trusted. There are more factions, but these are two that are most destructive to the black community’s future.
- Group one seeks to form any intersectional relationship, anywhere, with anyone, and are totally ignorant of later conflicts of interest; Or, they are aware of the conflict but confident they/she can manipulate the situation to self-benefit at a later time. For example, any black woman who has homosexual friends (either sex) is in this group.
- Group two is feminist motivated and looking at the blueprint of white feminists and opportunities to intersection specifically with them. They seek power and status and admire how white feminists stabbed their white men in the back and took their positions. Their goal is to similarly advance Black men, through martydom (see George Floyd) to achieve voice and power, but when once achieved, seize the throne though destruction of imperfect men in power positions (see NY Attorney General Letitia James,).
An example of this is in current events. The very same feminists who announced intersectionality with LGBT+++ movements are now complaining about transgender women who are coming up through female ranks. Feminists tried to use ‘intersectionality’ to consolidate political voice and power, but the bomb they made blew up in their faces.
Instead of a weapon against men, the transgenders used the feminists instead, and the former men are creating all sorts of headaches for the girl power movement. They did not see this coming. Men did. That’s why we’re laughing.
Intersectionality equals using people.
The women who demanded that transgender persons be accepted unconditionally never considered that these males would enter their ‘female spaces’ and begin to push them out of their positions.
This is yet another threat faced by the Black Community. African Americans need the men of the community to lead, but feminist promotion by definition is counter to that. White feminists are promoting their selfish needs and not what African Americans need. And Black feminists, in their desire to have what white women have, are emulating their Caucasian sisters.
If there is to be any erection of a strong black community, feminists must not be entertained. ESPECIALLY BY MEN.
“You’re not responsible–but you are” – Paraphrasing Jordan Peterson
I picked up my sixteen-year-old son from the homecoming dance, and we talked during the drive home. He called me at 9:15pm saying it was ‘pretty much over’, but the event was not due to end until 10 pm. It’s been a long while since I’ve been sixteen, but some things don’t change, and one of those things is staying out as late as possible. Why did he pull the plug?
I navigate the high school parking lot, find him, and we get out of there just as the rain picks up.
“Boy, that ended early. Wasn’t expecting your call for another thirty minutes.”
“Yeah, by 9:15 it was pretty much over.”
“Why? Was it wack?”
“Yeah. The DJ didn’t have up to date music.” – Long pause – “How could he not have the latest music?”
So, having been a semi-professional DJ in my younger years, I recalled to him one of my frustrations of playing for young people:
“Teenager, here’s the problem. He probably had it; he just couldn’t play it. Music today is vulgar . . . I mean, not a little suggestive, or a curse here or there. Am I wrong?”
“The DJ is under instruction from the school not to play the vulgar stuff for you impressionable youth. But . . . that’s almost every song. There’s little to nothing that he can play that is not offensive.”
“Yeah, ‘cause it was hot for like . . . two songs. Then it was dead again.”
“What songs would have kept the party live?”
“Like, some Pit Bull stuff . . . or Pop Smoke.”
“And I bet that music is really vulgar, full of cursing and/or violence.”
“There you go.” I huffed. “Today’s artists feel like they have to do that to stay cool. Or some just only think about themselves, there is no concern for the young who listen. They know what they’re doing and think it’s okay”. I already knew the answer to the next question I was going to ask, but I did anyway:
“Do you like all the cursing?”
The conversation moved to another topic, but this stuck with me all night. When he was about ten years old, we were in our car and I had the radio on a R&B channel. I can’t remember what song came on, but I didn’t feel it was appropriate for his young ears. I switched stations.
“Why is it when we listen to the ‘black’ music, you always have to turn?” I was stunned. “I noticed that.”
“Is it every time? Are you sure?”
“Yeah, like they’ll say bad words or something and then you have to turn. The other radio station doesn’t do that, make you have to turn. Why?”
“Well . . . I don’t think its right to say that on the radio, so I turn. But I don’t know why the black-wait a minute, why do you call the radio station black?”
“Cuz they play music black people like.”
Listening to the now ever-present and famous Jordan Peterson on YouTube, I thought of one of his lectures wherein he presented this philosophical concept: When something happens in the world, individually you’re not responsible—but as part of a group, you are. We all contribute to our world and culture, and what we love flourishes, what we ignore dies. If we push Dr. Peterson’s concept further out, we’re not all responsible–but we are.
Interpreting that, those of us who are responsible and caring parents do not make the music that is increasingly vulgar and violent. But we help promote it. Ask yourself, when your children were impressionable, what did you expose them to musically? What music did you enjoy IN THEIR PRESENCE? In my job serving the public, I witness cars cruising past elementary schools playing songs with lyrics that are heinous. Fathers with their child(ren) wearing a screen-printed t-shirt with DMX or Biggie Smalls glorified on it. Young mothers wearing t-shirts with Tupac’s image, sometimes holding two pistols.
We are responsible for the environment that normalizes this. I grew up watching Hip Hop music grow from birth, and I am guilty of promoting it. It was always vulgar—get any of the early tapes of the pioneering groups from the late seventies and early eighties and the themes and drug references are thorough. As is the glorification of violent street culture and sexual irresponsibility.
We are negligently assigning the label of creativity to music that is mentally debilitating. Hip Hop music is a
celebration of dysfunction, but we allow it because it’s fun. No one wants to stop their own fun, or the rapper’s money. In an act of justification, we call it creative and tell ourselves that this is this generation’s art form equally as different as those before. And so, just as we were seduced, now it has come to seduce and claim our children. Just like the Pied Piper.If these artists are so creative, WHY are we accepting that they can’t make a single song without ‘b***h*ss’, ’n****r’, ‘f**k’, ‘p***y’, ‘s**t’, ‘m*****f****r’?
“We’re not responsible–but we are”
The ‘Boogeyman’ has existed since before the birth of everyone reading this. Yes, he does exist. For as much as this being is blamed for, his existence cannot simply be mass hysteria. The Boogeyman is real. Why would so many apparently competent people cower at his approach and hide from his arrival? The Boogeyman’s name is just as known as any pop singer and as feared as Hitler’s Nazis.
The Boogeyman has a long track record of paralyzing supposedly strong people with fear. Everyone fears the boogeyman, but interestingly no one can describe this menacing specter. I’ve never seen an agreed upon sketch of his appearance nor heard an accurate description of his capabilities. Be on the lookout for who or what?
I charge that the Boogeyman is a mental manifestation of our shortcomings.
Therefore, to describe the Boogeyman, look no further than one’s own flaws. Are we prone to cowardice or unpreparedness? Felled by ignorance or lack of skill? We fear the boogeyman in dark spaces as an explanation of not knowing what is there and being unprepared to confront it. Faced with the discomfort of this situational flaw, we assign this shortcoming of courage and ability to the boogeyman.
Shortcomings may be a personal problem, a group problem, a human problem. Upon discovery of a shortcoming, most people inwardly feel shame. Maybe the reason one ‘came up short’ was a lack of ability. Maybe a business or team came up short due to poor preparation. Maybe the shortcoming was uncontrollable, a person’s physical flaw.
The reaction to this shame varies. Some will claim responsibility for their dereliction and set about correcting themselves. If the shortcoming is uncontrollable, an alternative solution may be found; “If I cannot be tall then I’ll be wealthy and ascend to a powerful position over others”. A football team with a struggling quarterback might rely on a strong running back.
But, for those who do not claim responsibility, or act, the Boogeyman appears. They will ascribe their failure to everyone and everything but themselves. Blame and reasons will spill out, and if done with enough emotion, will deflect ownership from themselves. The desire is for there to be an amorphous explanation for their failure, a reason that can be easily named and readily feared, yet spongy enough to be applied in any situation. Thus, they will blame the boogeyman. Remember, the boogeyman has no real description or modus operandi, or clear limitations, so he can be blamed in a wide array of catastrophic failures.
What’s the point of all this?
A black woman I knew feared Barack Obama’s victory in the 2008 election, she felt guilty voting for him because she thought he would be assassinated, and her vote was sending him to his death. Fearing the boogeyman. I was annoyed to hear many black people say, “I never thought they would let us have a black president”. They? There’s that boogeyman again. Amazingly, many whites I knew volunteered without my asking that they knew it would happen one day. But the African American fears some boogeyman will steal the moment, or in the face of failure, blame the boogeyman for the shortcoming.
Our (the African American/black) shortcoming is the reticence to expand our horizons. It may be out of an outdated worry that klansmen are going to ride up to the latest black achievement and burn it down. There are blacks who sabotage their own growth and development with concerns about losing their Black identity or culture. By not stepping outside the box of blackness that we keep ourselves in we only occasionally grow, and often fail. If you doubt this visit any black owned business and in most cases the shortcomings are blatant. But, in most cases, they are a reflection of their community, whose shortcomings are blatant.
In black culture, we have the comfort of blaming the boogeyman. All one must do is shout racism and attribute their failure to a white person(s), and sympathetic African Americans will nod in agreement with absolutely no investigation of the circumstances. Lack of effort is explained away by, “. . .them white folks (boogeymen) ain’t gonna let you do that.” When I listen to the up-and-coming cadre of black politicians or self-appointed black leadership, they manage to use the boogeyman to deflect shortcomings while portraying every success as a racial contest and having outplayed the boogeyman (“so and so is the first black to do this or that”, as if some wall has been climbed over. Once we had a black president, the ‘firsts’ after that are moot).
White America is not being let off the hook by this essay. The problem started and continued with them. America employed half measures for a hundred years that never really addressed the problem of its kidnapped/human trafficked population. The Southern population was let off easy after the Civil War and rather than humble themselves as the Christians they claim(ed) to be/are, they killed the President that made slavery abolishment his signature act. They formed a domestic terror group that embarked on a brutal campaign to subjugate their dark-skinned neighbors who were struggling to get on their feet. They created all sorts of local government policy to further cripple the former slaves for the next hundred years. There is a LOT of good reason for the black community to fear boogeymen.
The problem is that laying out the above becomes an excuse for too many in the ‘Black Community’ to engage in self-destructive behaviors. Every move is punctuated by fears of the boogeyman. Caucasians, the white man, ‘white supremacy’, white privilege–whatever awkward description we employ, are our boogeymen. I suggest that some of us unconsciously need white men to be evil. Their past crimes provide cover for black shortcomings. How else do we explain that despite numerous exorbitantly funded liberal efforts a large percentage of the black population still wallows in poverty and dysfunction? Their past racism/colonialism overshadows the African lack of preparedness, and the questioning of that, that never takes place.
Before this essay, where or when was the uncomfortable question asked, “Why was there no organized military and government in the African states to send away these European kidnappers? The scientific fact that African men were first on this earth but so easily exploited by the follow-on races that came later I find embarrassing. Therefore, our fear of boogeymen (white men) comes from being unprepared. Our rage at the boogeyman is a result of him taking advantage of our unpreparedness.
I will never suggest that any of the ‘isms’ are completely extinguished, or that the boogeyman will no longer plague our worries. What I am suggesting is that continued blaming of the boogeyman for tripping up black ascendancy makes him seem prolific and us (blacks) seem easily disrupted. Any person, or group, or institution, or formation of actors, must conquer it’s shortcomings. Doing so renders the boogeyman irrelevant. Unless some of us are afraid of growth, or expansion, or ascendancy; in that case, then we still need the boogeyman . . .